Catch-22

Boo and I have been dating for four months now. We still haven't had "the DTR (define the relationship) talk" about where this is headed. Up until now, my theory was if it ain't broke, don't fix it, because things have been going pretty well. However, recently, I've been finding myself bothered by the fact that I don't know where we stand as a couple. For example, the other night I was hanging out with my girl friend for the night and asked Boo to call me when he was returning home from his night out. I ended up calling him three or four times without an answer. The psychotic wheels started turning, and I began worrying about all the possible undesirable scenarios, all of which involved him and another girl. There has never been any reason for me not to trust Boo, and he's never struck me as the womanizing type. And believe me, I have had a good deal of experience pinpointing those types. As it turned out, the explanation was indeed a logical one and I felt like an idiot for doubting him. Still, the insecurities are there because I'm not certain of the exclusivity.

Why don't I just ask him, you say? The problem is that I'm fearful of bringing up the topic for several reasons. There's always a chance the outcome won't be a good one. I'm not sure if he hasn't brought it up himself because he's just as hesitant as I am, or he doesn't want to bring it up because he's content with the way things are. I also have no experience in having a "define the relationship" talk because in the past, my relationships always seemed to be implied and it was assumed that we were together as a couple. I don't know where to begin. I have no idea what I am doing. I'm lost. This is uncharted territory and I've got no map!