Cupid is Dead

Romance, courtship, chivalry...do those terms sounds old-fashioned? Well, apparently they are, because no one seems to know what they mean anymore. They've been replaced with lust, hooking up, and hanging out. Maybe it's just me getting older, but whatever happened to good, old-fashioned dating—flowers, opening doors, slow dancing, a little bit of romance? Perhaps because the stigma of pre-marital sex is now basically nonexistent, men don't have to try as hard to literally charm the pants off women. Or maybe I just happen to find the men with nary a romantic bone in their body. Whatever the reason, it's all bullshit.

It's generally the same story every time. I go out with a guy and he's charming, opens the door for me, pays for dinner, etc. A couple dates in, the door opening stops. Several more dates, and the charm disappears. Then, the phone calls become more sporadic. Once sex comes into play, I might as well give up, because at that point, there's obviously nothing more for him to gain and any glimmer of romanticism disappears.

So, what gives? Do I have to painfully withhold sex, in hopes of extending the chivalry and the charm just a little bit? Do I have to play a lousy game of incredibly-hard-to-get in order for him to want to be charming and chivalrous? Do I drop horribly obvious hints about the things I want? Nope. I hate playing games, so the aforementioned is null and void.

Ultimately, I think I may be stuck with the option of waiting for a guy who believes in romance, chivalry, and the old-fashioned idea of courtship. A guy, who holds my hand when we walk on the beach in the moonlight, who always insists on opening doors and pulling out chairs for me even if I insist on doing it myself, who calls or messages me just to say hi, who compliments me out of the blue, but most of all, a guy who literally charms the pants off me, and then aims to do it over and over again!